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Love at first sight? |
by:
Rion Williams |
Yes, men think
so...or is it 'lust' at first sight? How can a woman or man 'really'
know?
If a woman thinks it is 'love at first sight', she may have found
an incredibly 'hot' guy who matches her ideal social persona 'catch'.
If this guy actually knows how to be a natural, all women will
want him and she will have to fight with others to 'keep him'
(I can teach you to be this man).
Otherwise most of them appear to be quite boring because they
try to impress her and don't 'get it'. But when dealing with 'love
at first sight', yes it might be, but then longer term dynamics
start to sink in and kind of spoil it.
Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder, I mean, beholder.
'Love at first sight' is usually only perceptionally based if
not in its entirety. No one can match up ideally to one person's
expectation of who they are or who they should be. Once you find
out more about them, you're going to be disappointed in what you
thought they were. See how selfish we as people really are?!
Eventually you go through the hardships of a 'real' relationship
and very very rarely will everything work out perfectly where
the people are a real match (at least in our highly developed,
opinionated, individualistic cultural society).
You are only throwing your perception or ideals on who you think
that person is or should be (I have done this a lot in the past).
We want a person to be the ideal match to what WE think they should
be. Most often if not all the time, we find out they are not actually
what we idealized and then are a little disappointed. A real relationship
is going to take a lot of work and a lot more work than two 'simpler'
people.
If you can spark attraction shortly after you meet a woman, there
is a more realistic chance she will feel deeper emotions for you
than her social persona (of what states what she says she wants)
and she will often forgive your other misgivings as long as you
understand natural attraction.
This is actually very generous of her because now, guys (way)
below her level physically actually have a chance. The process
of attraction is slightly different for men and women.
Men will often instantly disqualify women for a sexual relationship
based on their looks (ahem), while women keep an open mind to
see who knows how to make them 'feel' the feelings that they respond
to so powerfully physiologically and emotionally. They are interested
in a mans character attributes because that are things that can
be of interest for the long haul.
These feelings have a biological root which she cannot choose
or control. This is why an average looking guy who 'get's it'
can have more of a chance than a good looking guy who easily proves
himself wrong to her right away.
She will resent that most of her counterparts do not 'get it'
yet but will be open to starting something with a man who finally
can just 'lead her through' the natural process of attraction...then
often sex 'just happened' or she got 'swept away'..this is the
way it is supposed to be and that she fantasizes about (and reads
in those sappy romance novels).
Don't be thrown off by what a woman says she wants if you are
not that social reflection of her consciousness yourself, she
is programmed biologically to react to men who are true naturals
with her or who display aspects of being a natural. Do not let
that stop you. Her biological inheritance (when in tandem with
a true natural man) will override ANY social programming she may
have, as long as he maintains true congruency and doesn't 'screw
it up'.
If you are a natural you probably won't screw it up when you are
reaching that part of her (there is much more leniency here).
If you are 'walking on egg shells' by trying to be 'qualified'
by her social persona, it's virtually a guarantee you'll screw
it up even with any small move. Take the very ending of 'Boat
Trip' where Roselyn Sanchez says to the wussy Cuba Gooding, Jr.
character, "Ok, but you BETTER not screw it up."
Sure the movie ends with a kiss but who has the control here?
Whose reality is he in? Love at first sight, but he is based in
the wrong paradigm of 'being' that he WILL screw it up because
of the power dynamics and several other factors (she is in control
by far).
In fact, you will almost put aside the entire notion of 'love
at first sight' because it's too romancey for you (although you
may secretly keep that dream alive); but you understand reality
a little more, that different relationships with different women
are going to give you different experiences.
Of course you may be aware of lust at first sight with women you
see most everywhere you go, but you really have to get to know
her more to find out who she is, otherwise it is all just perception.
If you can develop yourself to look as good as you can and get
your internal paradigm and life straight and clear, then you can
naturally accelerate the process of attracting women and starting
things with little effort. Your focus should really be on developing
yourself and living in a natural paradigm, while denying all of
the perceptual B.S. that is going on. Be an interesting and intriguing
man and improve yourself; HAVE something to offer women who are
lucky enough.
Your 'love at first sight' from their point of view only happens
if you match their social ideal (and traditional ideal of Prince
Charming) and then know how to take everything from there...then
all women will want you. You do not have to be Prince Charming..that
is another article, but remember how you relate to her says everything.
She needs to be turned up like a volume knob and you have to interact
with her to spark the process of sexual attraction and her interest
will grow in you...through time, may lead to infatuation, love,
great respect, devotion, passion, etc. from her.
It is all in how you relate to her so don't pay too much attention
to having to have Brad Pitt looks, with Soros' bank account...that's
the same as you wanting to date a supermodel, except you probably
have a better chance than she does to meet your ideal because
there are so few men left who really get it and are a great catch
in their own right (with some nice social status to boot).
There are countless beautiful women. The advantage and favor is
in YOUR hands. There are few men left who are awesome catches
AND who know how to deal with these women. Make women want you
just by being your true self at all times; an interesting, funny,
great guy and know how to take it from there (I can help you there
as well).
About the author:
Rion Williams offers a free newsletter subscription on how to
have 'natural success with women' and dating.
You can sign up for the free newsletter just by visiting his website
'http://www.mensguidetowomen.com/E_player.htm'
You will receive some free bonuses as well and you can then read
about his 352 page unabridged
'Men's Guide to Women' instantly downloadable eBook. It will change
the way you think about dating and women forever.
How To
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